For those of you who haven’t yet read his blog, Recked With Finn West, (click title to view), please allow me the honor of introducing to you, Finn West, the author (pictured above and throughout this interview). I first met Finn this past March, when his site initially appeared on WordPress.com. Obviously, he’s a man with whom I share many passions, namely that he’s a fellow same gender loving naturist/nudist who also happens to blog. Need I say more?
Finn’s brief sub-title for his blog (link above) is: Your body, naturist and lifestyle blog. I particularly appreciate his unashamed and unapologetic approach to nudity and same gender love. He features advice and helpful affirmation of fitness, health and positive living. A word of caution: his blog, as is A Guy Without Boxers, best read while completely naked. Throughout this interview, you’ll see that Finn is a man after my own heart, he’s not shy about showcasing his bare essentials in front of a camera lens.
Finn enthusiastically responded to my request for an interview and submitted his replies to my interview questions almost as soon as I’d sent them to him. I encourage all reading here to check out his site and follow him regularly.
For the purpose of this interview, his answers are organized in the following categories: sexuality, nudity and blogging. These are listed in chronological order as they are found in the interview below.
1. Growing up, what were you taught either by your family, responsible adults or your religion, about same gender love?
I was brought up in a fairly liberal environment and I feel very fortunate to have the family that I do. So many people have awful recollections of their childhood because they were denied the opportunity to learn and explore without judgment or preconception.
I was taught that same gender love was something that is part of you, something that you are born with. Nobody decides to suddenly be attracted to the same sex. Those that believe it is a choice or that it is caused by environmental factors are sadly mistaken.
Why would young people choose same gender love when they are fully aware that they are opening themselves up to mental abuse and hatred from any number of closed-minded people around them? It simply doesn’t make sense.
Being born gay is as natural as being born heterosexual. Fact. History will prove it!
Religion is a tough one, because so many seemingly intelligent individuals still use texts within the bible as proof that homosexuality is wrong. There are a large number of theological experts who have clearly stated that most people misinterpret text in the bible to simply prove their own point of view. God does not judge homosexuality. Biblical text has to be studied within the context of the time in which it was written. Misinterpreting scripture is dangerous and causes many people significant and unnecessary pain.
God would never judge someone who was born a certain way. We are all created in his image – gays included!
My family taught me that even if I disagree with something, I should not judge unless I have walked a few miles in that person’s shoes.
2. Growing up, did you have any older gay men in your family or as friends of your family?
I met a few people growing up that were openly gay and it was awesome. I also had a number of gay friends at school and at college who I respected deeply for coming out in tough communities. I am sure there were a number of older guys who were gay within my community, but unfortunately many chose not to be open about their sexuality. I look at that with regret, because I am sure I would have learnt a great deal from them.
3. At what age did you become aware of your same gender attraction? When did you “come out” or acknowledge your feelings for other men? How did your family react?
I was always attracted to anyone who I had a connection with. Be that male or female, young or old. My family had no issues whether I brought a man or a woman home for the weekend. My family knew of my views on sexuality by the time I was 14. The only reaction I got from them was – be safe. Like many great parents, they had educated me carefully about not putting myself in danger or bowing to peer pressure. They allowed me to be an individual.
I knew what the consequences of bad decisions were thanks to them and they trusted me to make the right choices. It is arguably the greatest gift they ever gave me.
My first sexual experience was with an older woman and I have very fond memories of that. My first with a guy was a classmate whom I spent many happy hours with.
Love is relative and nobody can decide who you are attracted to. It just happens. Go with the flow and don’t judge it. It’s all natural.
4. Growing up, did you have any gay friends?
I had a number of gay friends, yes. Remarkable people who showed me what courage truly is. Many of them are close friends to this day.
5. Any advice or words of wisdom for gay youth today?
I would tell young people today not to feel pressure to come out. You will know when you are ready. We live in a modern world where there are so many resources available to learn more about your own feelings. Use those resources, get to know yourself and then when you choose to come out to your family and friends, do so with pride.
It will require extraordinary bravery and you will face many obstacles. There are people who will judge you and hate your guts. There are those that will simply never understand or try to, but that is their problem, not yours.
You are perfect as you are and you will quickly discover who your true friends are. Believe me when I tell you that those will be friends for life.
There are billions of people in the world. Many would give anything to be friends with you. Remember that next time you get depressed because people are unwilling to accept you for who you are.
6. When you were a child, what were you taught about the human body, specifically nudity?
I was taught that nudity was the most natural thing in the world. Although my parents were not practicing naturists, they had no problem with me being naked.
They never judged me for wanting to be naked and they never will. I know I am fortunate in saying that and feel very lucky that I grew up in an environment where I was allowed to explore my own feelings. They steered me in the right direction on many occasions, but they always allowed me to be an individual.
7. By the time most young people become adolescents, they become very modest regarding their nudity among their peers. The onset of puberty usually causes this body shame. What was your experience in this situation?
Everyone is different and we develop in different ways. Personally due to the fact that I was always naked and saw older cousins and friends develop, I knew what changes to expect. So when I started to go through puberty myself, I did not feel the need to hide he fact. I was proud that I was growing up. I have fond and very funny memories of counting my increasing number of pubic hairs and showing them off like they were some rare treasure.
I was also taught that there is a difference between being nude and being sexual. Erections are inevitable when growing up and I wasn’t ashamed of the fact. But my wonderful parents did teach me that if I was in public and it happened, I should just lie down and let it subside. No big deal.
All boys masturbate and explore their sexuality. It’s natural. But my parents did make it clear that overt public sexual displays were unacceptable. They taught me not to confuse being naked with being horny. And that is a vital lesson that I have carried with me over the years.
8. In your youth, did you ever skinny-dip (swim naked) with your peers or siblings?
As a naturist, I only skinny-dipped – hahaha! My family knew that and even if they were clothed, they didn’t judge me for being naked.
I am a beach bum at heart and here was nothing more pleasurable than skinny-dipping in the ocean. It was ultimate freedom and I loved it. I still do.
9. At what age did you realize your interest in naturism? What encouraged you to pursue this interest?
I really didn’t think about it too much growing up. Being naked was as natural as having a meal. I think I formally called myself a naturist for the first time at about 18 when I moved into my first apartment as a student at college. I have lived naked ever since.
10. Are you “open” about your nudist pursuits? Any advice to younger naturists/nudists today?
I am very open about my naturist lifestyle. All my close friends know that I am a born naturist.
I sometimes wish I had had the opportunity to visit nudist resorts on holiday as a child but unfortunately, my family were not into naturism. I don’t judge them for that. We are all different. But sometimes I think it would have been nice to have shared my naturist passion with more people my age growing up.
My advice to younger naturists who are not part of a naturist family is to make a friend who is. All kid’s go on weekends away with their mates and their mate’s families. Go with them on a naturist vacation and enjoy it.
I would also say to be brave and go naked whenever you can. You may just be the one that inspires others to get naked, too. That was certainly my experience with friends at school.
11. Have you always been interested in writing?
Yes, I have always had a passion for writing. It inspires me to learn more about myself everyday. It challenges me to create informed opinions. I would be incomplete without it.
12. What influenced you to pursue blogging?
I felt it was important to challenge people to ink for themselves. Blogging is a wonderful way to explore your own identity. The feedback from fellow bloggers allows you to grow as an individual.
There is also so much negativity in the media today that I felt some positive stories would be appreciated.
13. As the author of a public blog that features yourself as a gay man and as a naturist, has this produced a negative impact in your life? Has this had any positive effect in your life?
All the feedback I have received has been positive. I am thankful for that. I see y blog as a platform to simply discuss, explore and learn more about my interests and passions. We only grow when we share and communicate those opinions with others.
As for potential negative impacts, I wouldn’t give a shit if people chose to judge me for what I write or who I am. That is their problem. End of story.
14. In what ways has your writing evolved throughout your blogging experience?
It has challenged me to explore things I have not always made time for. My blog is simply a public extension of the writing I have always done in private.
15. Any words of wisdom for younger bloggers today?
Be brave and explore the subjects that have meaning to you.
You will be surprised at how invaluable your thoughts and experiences are to other people. Be unique and never censor yourself unnecessarily. Share what is on your mind, be honest and you will inevitably grow as a human being.
Thank you, Finn! Your commitment of both energy and time to this interview is appreciated by not only myself but the readers and visitors here as well. As a token of our gratitude, you are added to the A Guy Without Boxers special page dedicated to all interview subjects and guest bloggers, The Page of Fame: Dare 2 Bare. Click on the page title to see Finn’s nude place of honor. Join him as we celebrate all the other bloggers who have the courage to bare themselves and proudly share their skin!
Above is Finn’s WordPress.com gravatar. The motto on the underside of his lower lip, Let’s live, honestly reflects both the man and his blog: Recked With Finn West. It has been a privilege to be wrecked naked with you, sir!
No Boxers, Briefs, Thongs, Bikinis, or Jocks! Be Nude!
Peace! Get naked. Enjoy!
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